Individuals must accept responsibility for their decisions and the ensuing repercussions. This principle should be universally upheld.
I believe there’s a tendency to expect female athletes to be flawless role models, consistently making impeccable choices and delivering perfect statements. However, the advancement of women’s football and sport, in general, has been propelled by those who dared to challenge the status quo and defy convention.
The pressure to maintain an unblemished persona is immense. Everyone is multifaceted, and errors are inevitable.
It is unfortunate that Mary Earps chose to release an autobiography at this juncture in her career, while still an active player, and considering the timing of its publication.
The book has caused considerable discomfort and unease, casting a shadow on both Mary and Hannah Hampton, players who have been teammates and whose ascensions have been widely celebrated. Many have felt invested in their journeys and the success they have contributed to the Lionesses.
This situation has prompted a re-evaluation of the concept of role models in women’s football. The widespread reaction suggests a shattering of previously held ideals.
Individuals respond differently to hurt, pressure, transitions, or changes in their roles or positions within a team.
While I understand Mary’s motivation to use her autobiography to articulate her perspective and symbolically conclude a chapter of her England career, I am concerned by the potential impact on Hampton and manager Sarina Wiegman.
There exists a collective, unwritten agreement that matters within a team should remain confidential. This is essential for building trust and respect. Constant agreement is not necessary, but mutual respect is paramount.
Mary is navigating a new phase of her life, and this situation may serve as an unintended lesson. I remain confident in her character and hope she will have the opportunity to reaffirm her positive qualities.
This incident has prompted reflection on the expectations placed on successful women who aspire to authenticity, as Mary has expressed. Are women held to an exacting standard regarding the management of their emotions?
Historically, there has been a protective approach to women’s football in England, aimed at mitigating negativity. However, with increasing scrutiny, players will need to cultivate greater adeptness in managing their public image. These considerations now hold a significance that may not have existed previously.
My interactions with former USA players suggest a different perspective compared to those in the UK. They are more accustomed to direct personalities expressing their views, regardless of agreement.
Mary is not the first athlete to publish an autobiography that includes criticism or expresses personal perspectives on perceived treatment. However, when content is released publicly, responses should be anticipated. It appears she may have been unprepared for the ensuing reaction.
Would I have released such a book while still actively playing? Probably not. However, Mary has made this choice, guided by advice from her inner circle.
A book is inherently revealing, exposing aspects of her mindset, emotional experiences, relationships with teammates, and specifically, her relationship with Hannah Hampton, previously unknown to most. Sharing these vulnerabilities carries inherent risks.
It is reasonable to question the advice she received. It is crucial for athletes to exercise due diligence to ensure their best interests are being served.
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I’ve not written book to tear anyone down – Earps
It is unrealistic to assume that every member of a 23-player team will always be in complete accord, particularly at the elite level, where pressure, expectations, and competition for positions are intense.
I have been part of squads where nonconformity would preclude future selections or initial inclusion. Wiegman deserves credit for her ability to manage diverse personalities, foster growth, and facilitate the reintegration of players into the England squad.
Ultimately, Mary is a highly accomplished professional athlete who has faced challenges adapting to life outside of international football. The support system surrounding her, now an integral part of the women’s football ecosystem, has unfortunately been mishandled.
The primary takeaway is that while accountability for mistakes and choices is essential, no one should be subjected to abuse based on their perspective or experience.
Anita Asante was speaking to BBC Sport’s senior women’s football news reporter Emma Sanders.
I’ve not written book to tear anyone down – Earps
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